Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Matt and Carlin Flora discuss why people tend to avoid addressing tough conversations. The fear that comes from bringing up tough conversations can initiate from not knowing where a relationship is emotionally. Another issue with tough conversations stems when people bring up a topic in the heat of the moment. At times of high stress, people may not react well to a deep conversation. Therefore, the idea of having another tough conversation may seem uninviting based on previous experiences. Matt discusses the root of issues between people by describing the S.T.A.R.V.E.D stuff. Safety, trust, appreciation, respect, validation, encouragement and dedication are the deeper issues that typically initiate arguments and misunderstanding between people. When a wife complains about her husband not doing the dishes, she may feel underappreciated. It's not about the chore itself. It's about the appreciation she feels from her husband.