How to Stop Enabling, Self-Talk, The Paper Therapist

How to Stop Enabling (0:00:00) Service brings joy to not only the recipient but also the server. It feels good when we go out of our way to do something for another person, especially for our own kids. However, there can come a point when our service harms more than it helps. Rather than giving someone the boost they need to be successful, we become enablers of self-destructive behaviors which negatively affects both ourselves and the person we want to help. Joining us on the show is Sharon Martin, a psychotherapist and author, here to discuss enabling and what we can do to stop it. Self-Talk (0:19:58) If you’re the kind of person who processes your thoughts best out loud, you could wind up having long conversations with yourself. Some bystanders might look at you funny during these conversations. But what these people don’t know, is that talking with yourself might have some real benefits. Joining us on the show is Judy van Raalte, professor of psychology, to discuss how talking to yourself can actually be a useful psychological tool. The Paper Therapist (0:34:44) You open up your journal and you read the last three entries: one from 2017, the next written in 2018, and the last one from about a year ago. Each one includes some phrase about how this is the year you’re finally going to write in your journal every day. We all know journaling is a good idea, but often we lack the motivation to do it. Maybe we just don’t know why it is such a good idea and how it can help us. Bryan Collins, author of “Yes, You Can Write” and avid journal writer, joins us to talk about the benefits he’s seen from journaling and how it has shaped his writing abilities.